只有黛玉是真心哭宝玉
《蒋勋说红楼梦》（168）
一、如果我是宝玉，听到妈妈说这种话，一定觉得很恐怖。她意思是说，如果哥哥还在，打死一百个宝玉我也不在乎。
1. If I were Baoyu, hearing my mother say such words would be truly horrifying. What she meant was: if your elder brother were still alive, I wouldn't care if a hundred Baoyus were beaten to death.
二、有没有发现绕来绕去还是儒家伦理，对于这个妇人来说，最重要的是她得有个儿子。
2. Have you noticed how it all circles back to Confucian ethics? For this woman, the most important thing is that she must have a son.
三、这种话读起来会感觉毛骨悚然，好像她不是在疼宝玉，而只是在担心自己的身份和地位，在顾忌自己是不是有个儿子在。
3. Reading such words sends chills down one's spine. It seems she isn't truly loving Baoyu, but rather worrying about her own status and position, concerned about whether she has a son to rely on.
四、在曹雪芹看来，不应该只把爱放到伦理当中，我爱一个人不能仅仅因为他是我儿子，最本质的爱应该是生命对生命的。更明确地讲，曹雪芹反对儒家的伦理之爱，因为这种爱有分别心。
4. In Cao Xueqin's view, love shouldn't be confined solely within ethical frameworks. Loving someone shouldn't be just because he's my son. The most fundamental love should be from one life to another. More explicitly, Cao Xueqin opposed Confucian ethical love because such love makes distinctions.
五、有时候你参加一个丧礼，会看到有一大堆人在哭，可每个人都在哭自己，因为它只是一个机会，让每一个人趁机吐露出自己的委屈，而且那些人哭起来会如泣如诉，像唱歌一样。
5. Sometimes when you attend a funeral, you see a crowd of people crying, yet each person is crying for themselves. It's just an opportunity for everyone to take the chance to pour out their own grievances, and their weeping becomes plaintive and narrative, almost like singing.
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